One of the strangest things about relationship is that we are not free to feel attracted to just anyone.
We tend to have very strong psychological types that we can't deviate from. All of us carry inside us very specific list, defining what the people we can love need to be like as characters. These list are often weirder.
Why can't we settle down with people who are good for us? That's because we are looking for someone who feels familiar.
A lot of us learned about love in childhood at the hands of people who were trouble for us and who continue unconsciously to guide our love types, this can cause havoc with our chances of happiness.
Emotional health mean expanding on the number of people we are free to fall in love with.
We learn about love in childhood, but we liberate ourselves from the traumas of childhood when we realize we can love in different ways, and get used to something that may at first be eerily and challenging unfamiliar.
This video, made from THE SCHOOL OF LIFE, explains why we fall in love with the wrong person.
Alain de Botton is a writer, philosopher and television host. He founded The School of Life. Deals with the culture and history of thought emphasizing their value for everyday life.
We tend to have very strong psychological types that we can't deviate from. All of us carry inside us very specific list, defining what the people we can love need to be like as characters. These list are often weirder.
Why can't we settle down with people who are good for us? That's because we are looking for someone who feels familiar.
A lot of us learned about love in childhood at the hands of people who were trouble for us and who continue unconsciously to guide our love types, this can cause havoc with our chances of happiness.
Emotional health mean expanding on the number of people we are free to fall in love with.
We learn about love in childhood, but we liberate ourselves from the traumas of childhood when we realize we can love in different ways, and get used to something that may at first be eerily and challenging unfamiliar.
This video, made from THE SCHOOL OF LIFE, explains why we fall in love with the wrong person.
Alain de Botton is a writer, philosopher and television host. He founded The School of Life. Deals with the culture and history of thought emphasizing their value for everyday life.
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